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Recently I've noticed that I've become a people pleaser- meaning it's hard for me to say no to my friends or family. What's the deal with that? Maybe it's a woman thing. I don't know why I always put other people's happiness before my own. I've learned that saying no, is one of the simple secrets of happiness. It's not that I don't like doing things for my friends and family but I just don't know where to draw the line sometimes and I find myself doing things I don't want to and then I regret it. Remembering that you are the only person in charge of your life is important- that's not to say you should be rude and inconsiderate of your friend's needs but its ok to say no sometimes if you really don't want to do something. I've found that saying no actually helps build your friendships up because you don't resent the person for making you do something you were totally against doing in the first place. What do you guys think? Are you people pleasers too? Is it hard for you to say no to your friend or your family?