Q: Do men get intimidated by a self-sufficient woman?

A: Evolutionists and anthropologists say that men are problem-solvers, men like to have heroic attributes, men like to save the day, and when women talk about having a problem at work or a problem somewhere in life, men want to roll up their sleeves and solve the problem.

There are many psychologists who say playing the damsel in distress can help you to win a guy. In my experience with men, I've often seen the opposite be true, which is that men are really looking for a partner in life and they're looking for an intellectual partner, an emotional partner -- very often a financial partner, because this is very much a two-income world. So I would say the more a woman is capable and evolved and the more she's put into her self-development, the better a partner she is going to be and the more attractive she is going to be to a man.

My only caveat would be sometimes women say, "I'm really self-sufficient. I don't need a man," and that's a way of avoiding intimacy. Because in an intimate relationship you are both naturally going to be dependant on each other and creating a foundation of trust around your dependency is sort of what marriage is all about.

I would say, be self-sufficient but also, open yourself up to be emotionally interdependent on someone. It's not about emotional dependency, but emotional interdependency.