Q: I feel as though my personality is my best trait but don't know how to make that apparent through an online profile. What can I do?

A: People are often very, very good at writing job resumes. Approach your profile a little bit like you're writing a resume. Try writing a personal resume that's about your life; about your formative experiences, about your interests; about highlights from your education.

Writing a profile is a great opportunity to really reflect on your life and think about what makes you you. Guys have told me, "I saw this woman's profile and she described a really silly experience that happened during childhood that sort of embodied her." Or "She described a friendship with a particular friend in college."

I'm not saying go out there and be artificially quirky, but if you really think about what makes you you -- what is your essence, what is the part of you that you've been developing and taking with you through so many reformative experiences -- you will then come away with a few real nuggets that you can share in a profile.

A profile doesn't have to be a list of all the qualities that make you a great mate. It's putting down on paper something that expresses you in a really individual way. And again, a lot of men have told me that they've been attracted to profiles that are really sort of quirky and offbeat -- someone really expressed something about themselves by talking about a childhood experience or an experience in school, something that was sort of representative and emblematic rather than just a laundry list of "These are the books I like to read and this is the music I like to listen to."