Bethanne Patrick: Evan, thanks for being here. So we want to talk today loosely about 'ten reasons why you're still single.' Really we'll probably talk about five but 'Why You're Still Single' is very fun and very funny and I wish Linda were here to talk to us because she's just as funny, if not funnier than you are.Evan Marc Katz: I'm with you on that.
Bethanne Patrick: It's a wonderful book and I wanted to ask you first before we get into some of these reasons why people are still single, why you needed to write this book. There are so many books out there about dating, and about why people are single, but you have some expertise here, so tell us about it.Evan Marc Katz: I think anybody who's single has an expertise. I was out last night and told people what I did and someone asked me, 'so are you still single?' -- a very predictable question -- and I said yes. We like our experts to be married, we like our experts to be a doctor, but who really knows more about being single than a single person and a person who's been single forever?
Bethanne Patrick: And not just a person who's been single forever, but someone who started e-cyrano.com -- the online dating consulting service. You have been around the internet and around people dating and trying not to be single for a while, so you've got the experience.Evan Marc Katz: No doubt I am a prolific dater and online dating coach and all that sort of things, but a lot of the things we say -- the reason we anticipate that it will resonate with people -- is that this is a universal human experience. We might be experts based on a certain experience and a certain profile ... because I write dating books and I help people date -- but at the end of the day, most of the stuff is really common sense -- it's the stuff that we do inadvertently to trip ourselves up.
I only started writing this book because I got dumped by someone and I was like, 'okay why did this happen, how do I make sure this doesn't happen again,' and upon further reflection I was like, 'maybe I should share this with other people.'
Bethanne Patrick: I actually want to read a quote from the back of the book from Linda which is, 'this book isn't about catching men or reeling anybody in. Catching is for nine year old playing freeze tag and reeling is for trout. This is about you considering the possibility that you're tripping over your own feet. No matter how much of an amazing, smart, hot, totally worthwhile ass-kicker you may be as a general rule.' This book is about looking at what you're doing, correct?Evan Marc Katz: Exactly, because you can't control what anybody else does. Ask somebody why they're still single and nine times out of ten they'll tell you, 'I just haven't met the right person' and that's true -- we're not here to tell you that you have met the right person and blew it. But there's more to it than that. So we wrote 29 short chapters about those various reasons, things within your control beyond 'it's everybody else's fault.'
