The Sex-Starved Wife

• The Sex-Starved Wife

  When He's Lost Desire
  
  Are you a woman who deeply desires more satisfying sex with your husband? You're not alone. AOL Love and Sex Life Coach Michele Weiner Davis, author of 'The Sex-Starved Wife,' shares the secrets that will help you reignite your love life.

• The Sex-Starved Wife

  It's Not Me, It's You
  
  Most wives tend to blame themselves. But there are biological reasons, such as cardiovascular disease, and emotional causes, including depression, that triggers a drop in male sexual desire. Of course, your husband could also be having an affair.

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  Stop Talking About It
  
  When you first noticed your husband withdrawing sexually, did you do what any logical woman would do -- talk to him? But what you intended as a heart-to-heart ended up as a heated argument or cold war. Reduce your words and take action. Here's how.

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  Compliment Him
  
  The first step is to try to boost his ego. Show him how good his body feels to you. He might not be happy with the extra 15 pounds, but caress his chest and say, I like how strong and powerful you feel.

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  Do What Used to Work
  
  For many couples, work, bills, children, and general stress have worn away the spontaneity and creativity of lovemaking. Some of us even schedule sex dates!Go back to old tricks like dirty talk or fantasy play.

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  The Attraction Factor
  
  Many husbands no longer feel attracted to their wives due to her weight gain, sloppy appearance, or unhealthy habits such as smoking. Whether that's fair or right, it just is. Be honest with yourself about your looks and the energy you put into being sexy, healthy, and fit.

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  Spice Things Up
  
  Ask your husband if sex has become boring, and if so, what he would like to do for more excitement. Or, surprise him and tell him you're not wearing panties. Walk into the room wearing only lingerie. Feel him up at a stop light.

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  Turn It On!
  
  There must be some things he likes about sex: X-rated videos, role play, sex toys. If he's brave enough to tell you what he likes, short of doing something illegal or degrading, do it -- or find ways to compromise.

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  Let Him Lead
  
  If you want him to be more involved sexually, step back and give him notice you're not pursuing him. Give it time -- more than two weeks -- and don't make the mistake of silently stewing while you're doing it.

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  Not-So-Hot Mama Syndrome
  
  Another reason men fall out of lust is that their partners' roles change. If your husband has difficulty seeing you, his wife and a mother, as erotic, try putting on some lipstick and acting out fantasies that cast you in a more erotic light.