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Get More Intimacy In Your Love Life
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Picture it -- champagne, essential oils and the man you love whispering sweet nothings into your ear. Now it's time to focus on the real pleasure spots: your heart and your brain. AOL Love & Sex Coach Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D. author of 'Touch Me There!' explains how to find the intimacy you crave.
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The Brain
The brain is by far the most erotic spot of the entire body. If you doubt it, consider how satisfying it is to fantasize and daydream. All too often, though, lovers focus below-the-belt. But paying attention to what's going on in your and your lover's head allows the two of you to stay connected in the moment and create an overall mind-body experience.
The Scalp
Giving your partner a head massage is one of the most sensual, soothing ways to seduce, show your love to or simply pamper your partner. Massaging the scalp helps lovers to relax and unwind together because it releases oxytocin, a stress-response hormone that produces a state of calm, especially in women.
The Neck
People are very protective of this most intimate and sensitive part of the body, which is why neck play symbolizes two people's relationship as lovers. A gesture as simple as kissing your beloved on the neck before parting for a few hours reinforces your bond and can hint at more intimacy to come later.
The Ears
A person's ears can be really sensitive to touch and tone. So as you stroke, kiss and nibble on your partner's ears, don't forget the role of sound. Murmuring endearments, exhaling and making satisfied noises can reinforce attraction and adoration.
The Eyelids
Eyelids are easily one of the most ignored areas of the body. This is understandable since people are often afraid of poking their partner in their eye. But sensory exploration of the eyelid -- kissing, brushing with your nose tip -- can be done without harm. A partner's trust in your ability to handle this area so lovingly is endearing.
The Eyes
When people first fall in love, they spend oodles of time gazing into each other's eyes. Considered by many to be the windows to the soul, the eyes signal love and sexual interest. This is one of the reasons why maintaining eye contact with your lover is a wonderful way to stay connected and feed each other energy.
The Nose
Breathing in through the nose helps the body to relax and focuses your mind. Also, the luscious smells found in essential oils, incense and scented soaps and candles are especially effective leaving memory imprints. When reencountering that smell, a person is more recall to recall an intimate moment and the feelings that went along with it.
Lips
It is important to always give good attention to the act of kissing since it is one of the top ways to show love. Since some couples neglect locking lips after being together for a while, always strive to pucker up in order to take your pleasure up a level. Take turns being the active and passive kisser.
The Tongue
The tongue's wetness, warming and lubricating effects and range of movements, as in presses and strokes, heightens its role in heating things up. This also includes its ability to taste. Offer your sweetheart an oral aphrodisiac: chocolate, mango, champagne, oysters or foods containing chili peppers. As you satiate your partner's appetite, don't be shy about offering a taste of yourself.
'Touch Me There!'
Excerpted from 'Touch Me There!' by Yvonne Fulbright, Copyright © 2007 by Yvonne Fulbright. Excerpted with permission from Publishers Group West, a division of Hunter House, Inc.
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